I AM TOO BUSY

All too often with my clients I observe how people react and feel when others say, "I am busy" or when they simply do not take the time to engage people.

And...this is what others hear when this happens:

ü  She sees me as less or unimportant

ü  It is always about him

ü  I feel marginalized

In family businesses this phenomena is exacerbated because of parent-child relations that overlays the business culture.

In professional firms I observe competitive cultures where people are not working on a level playing field because of a lack of being genuinely engaged. Genuine and trusting engagement starts first by talking!

TAKE THE TIME TO BE INCLUSIVE...and recognize when you are not!

MAURICE RESISTS REQUESTS

Totally stuck.

Potential to inherit Dad's company

Has talent but stuck in status quo

 

Approach

Patient listening to find out what is causing the stuckness,  that which has yet to be revealed

 

Who do you talk to when you feel stuck?  203.216.6232

THE CEO WHO SPEAKS LOUDLY

EXTREME ENGAGEMENT!

Client 2nd generation business owner Actions He goes directly to individuals to point out "what is wrong" with what they are doing Message sent to staff They feel he does not trust their abilities Opening comment when first engaged: "I don't think any of my managers add value" No surprise!   Two weeks later: "I have never had anyone teach me how to manage!" Process Transition to holding managers accountable and stepping away to make that happen.  His managers need to build greater trust with the boss that they are competent leaders.

M&A FRIENDS: WORKING WITH THE KIDS

Yes, It is the kids that you need strong trust and relationships to move deal flow forward!

 

If the next generation does not show the passion or competency to lead their company to new heights, selling is a viable option...so says my client who engagement me this year to help discern which way to go.

 

Then the clincher...the owner says that his issues with his kids might partly be his fault.

 

So sets the family dynamic!

 

"Oh! But dad hates conflict so it is hard to engage him. We do not think he listens to us half the time."  Dad, "I feel like they are still kids, even though they are in their 30's."

 

A hint of adolescence that can be resolved by changing the parent/child dynamic.

 

It has a lot to do with kids feeling validated and the parents ability to step back and allow more freedom for the kids to operate. Never as easy as us parents want!

 

The question I am now wrestling with is: how willing is the dad [president] to carve out a CEO role as a means to step back. If "yes" we can allow the next generation [and all of the involved cousins] to step up and see how good they really are.

 

If not I will need to use the 80/20 rule with the father and help the kids figure out a more significant role than the father currently allows.

 

If the kids don't step up and "pass", I will be looking for one of you to intervene in the sale!

ALAN BOOTH: FINDING FAULT WITH OTHERS MAY BE BENEFICIAL

My clients have taught me that when they find fault with others this can open the door to opportunities to resolve.

My client, Jonas, frequently complained about his sales manager not delivering in a new role. The emails he showed be always started with incendiary tone. "You have yet to deliver..."

Although subtle, he wished that the sales manager would resign even though his performance was great in making appointments with the highest executives of their prospects.

As our relationship grew,  this blaming opened a new conversation about him [Jonas] and what he could do differently! "There are other options to correct this situation other than termination."

Why does blaming occur?:

n  Lack of confidence

n  Lack of control

n  Feeling failure because the blaming does not bring the right results

...all correctable when one puts aside their ego for moment!

WARNING: I WILL BE CALLING YOU TOMORROW

Does this make you feel angry that I would be so aggressive?

When coaching CEO Dave, it became clear he was dissatisfied with one of his staff who was in the field.  "Dave, please share what your last conversation sounded like."

"No problem, Alan", as he prints out all of the emails from the past two weeks." [8 pages]

WHAT?  Email?

So I read the first sentence of the last message: "John, I am very disappointed with the proposal you gave XYZ Distributors..."

My response to CEO Dave: "How do you think John reacted?"

Dave: "Not very well"

 Me: "So do you want to terminate him, have him resign or motivate him to meet your expectations?"

 Needless to say there was much more work needed when one attempts to manage, motivate or influence someone exclusively by email.

SORRY - I AM TOO BUSY TO TALK WITH YOU

Have you had that feeling from your manager, board, customers, clients?

"Not enough time" has become a frequent [and passive] way to say: "I don't value your idea" or "What I am working on is more important."

Client Jon Betz, a senior operating executive is seen as exceptionally busy, resulting in his team not genuinely trusting him.  When he speaks or emails, his direct reports need to read between the lines.

Without that trust and collaboration, his team holds back on bringing up new ideas to grow his company. They simply feel disrespected.

They wonder, "am I the problem" or "is it Jon?"  Business paranoia!

Being a mirror for him, I ask how he gets the best from his team, followed by a summary of what his team has told me.  Big gap!

Having the respect of his team is #10 on his priority list.  So much so we convened a "New Leader Re-calibration" to enhance feedback in both directions on what is most important to them both.  This causes a new beginning of engaging Jon and how Jon can build the respect he wants and needs.

Like Jon's people, do you feel you have the ear of your boss and that person respects your ideas...and acts on them?